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So, being the parent of a transgender child, you might think this would be a typical post about my child going back to school after recently transitioning, and how well things are (or are not) going for him with teachers, students, and faculty. But…Jacob is being home-schooled, so this isn’t that kind of post.
Although we are “back to school” with regards to our homeschool studies, actually, i am the one who has returned to school: i’m back in college, pursuing my degree in Psychology after way too many years of putting it off. Between that and my other responsibilities, i’m overwhelmed! I’m not sure what i expected, but i really wasn’t quite prepared for the amount of time it would carve out of my life.
Just a quick update on Jacob: he is still struggling with some eating/stomach issues. It’s been difficult to determine at this point how much of his inability to eat is physical and how much is mental. Due to the anxiety around eating, general anxiety, and depression, we did agree to try a very low dose of Prozac. I was reluctant at first due to all the scary warnings surrounding the use of those types of drugs with adolescents, but the herbal supplements weren’t helping, and we needed to do something. When we tried to increase the dose, he started having some negative thoughts (which confirmed my fears about all of those scary warnings!), so we are back down to the minimum dosage and when we see his psychiatrist later this upcoming week we will have the medication changed. He will also be seeing a gastroenterologist to find out whether there’s something physical contributing to his stomach distress.
Jacob has a girlfriend, and it’s a long-distance relationship, which is both a benefit and a stressor. Overall it has been great for his self-esteem, and she took the news that he is trans* without skipping a beat so i am extremely grateful to her for giving him that positive experience.
We have a Pride Festival happening in a few weeks in our town, and the buzz is that it may end up being one of the largest in our state. I’ve been helping with planning and am really excited and nervous about the possibilities. Jacob and other youth from his support group will be staffing the t-shirt sales table. I guess my nervousness comes from the fear that people will show up to preach or try to “pray away the gay” or just generally act in an obnoxious and inappropriate way. There will be security, but i don’t want the youth involved to be exposed to anything negative. So…just send some rainbow vibes our way mid-month in the hopes that this will turn out to be a positive experience for all involved! Thanks. =)
Please forgive me for being out of touch, especially when it comes to visiting your spaces. I am thinking of you all.
[for his privacy, my son's real name is not used]