I’m not sure what “normal” means, but i think it feels like this
June 22, 2014
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It’s been a while since i’ve posted anything here, and historically that has meant that things aren’t going well. This time, however, it means that we’ve been busy having a very “normal”-feeling life.
Jacob* has taught me over the last few years to refrain from using the word normal, but in this instance i think it’s the best word to describe the sense of calm and okay-ness that we are all feeling. Instead of worrying over whether or not Jacob is eating or whether i might find that he has harmed himself and fearing that i am going to lose him, i’m back to thinking about the typical day-to-day worries about the health of our aging pets and repairing the broken water heater and what to make for dinner.
In the early days of learning i had a transgender child, the fact that my child is trans was at the forefront of my mind. Now, he’s just my 16-year-old who…oh yeah…happens to be transgender.
At our PFLAG meetings, there’s an introductory part of our circle where we share our inspiration for being part of the group. I’ve pretty much always said that my son is my inspiration for being there — to support him and to learn, and to be there for other parents who are newer to the journey. At our most recent gathering i found myself saying that i am also there because, along the way, we have come to know and care about many other transgender people too, and i’ve made some really good friends that i want to support as well. I started down this road feeling very much like a mom all alone in the world, and i am now surrounded by amazing people that i love and am so very grateful to know.
Our lives have changed a lot in the last few years, and i’m happy with our evolution and i love our new normal. Thanks for being part of our journey! I look forward to sharing more of it with you.
*Jacob is the name i use for my son on this blog to protect his privacy