I am the mother of a transgender son and his two supportive older cisgender brothers. Most of this blog focuses on our personal experiences as my son transitions from being viewed as a girl, sister, and daughter to living his life as a young man, brother, and son.
Our amazing journey began in February 2012 when my then 13-year-old child trusted me with the words “I’m A Boy”.
For the safety and privacy of my son, i use a pseudonym for his name. The name i have chosen, Jacob, is the name he would have been given had he been designated male at birth. In the rare instances when i must use a pseudonym for his former name, i use Ann — his previous middle name. More about that name, and letting go of it, here.
For my older sons, i also use substitute names. For most other family members, friends, and people in our lives, i just use titles (my mother, my friend, Jacob’s dad/my spouse, etc.).
My name really is Karen.
I no longer update this blog, but am keeping it active because i’m still hearing from people who find our journey meaningful and relatable. For those new to learning that you have a transgender child — life really does get easier with time!
The artwork on this page (also used as my avatar) and in the header image of this website was created by and copyright to my incredibly talented son.